3 Critical Error When Talking To Women Online. You're Probably Doing One Of Them Right Now!
70So you logged on to your favorite online dating site - or perhaps Facebook.
And there she is.
Warning! Don't do what 99% of the guys do - bore her to death!
The really attractive girl that you just can't take your eyes off. But what do you do? Let me tell you what 99.5% of the guys do - so don't do this. They send her a really boring and generic message. Something like these:
"hello how are you"
Or…
"Hey! How are you? You look really interesting and I was wondering if you would like to chat some day? I hope you like me. Hit me back!"
Or…
"Wow, you are really beautiful. I bet all the guys are hitting on you. But I hope this messages gets to you. I would really like to treat you out sometime!"
Or…
"I'm the nicest guy if you give me a change. So hit me back please!"
Believe it or not, but it's true. Attractive women get tens of messages like that every day. The success rate of those messages can't be much above 1%. And that's if you are lucky and have otherwise a really good profile.
So what's the magic formula?
Profile and photo first
To begin with.. You need a really good profile before you even start emailing women. Really, I mean that.
You need to get the right pictures and information into your profile first. An attractive woman won't message back to you if you just have the generic info in your profile. She gets 50 or more emails per day. You have to stand out from the crowd, otherwise you don't stand a change.
Put yourself into her position. You see some guy message you on a dating website and he has no picture… can you say creepy?
What kind of pictures to include. You want to show that you have a lot going on in your life. Put interesting pictures of you in your hobbies and having fun with your friends. Show her that you are real. For more info on online dating profile pictures, see my other article: The best online dating photos.
Avoid generic messages
Second thing, you have to read her profile. Most guys just send a boring and generic first email. You have to personalize it and make her feel it's written for her specifically - not copy-pasted and sent to 100 other women.
Think about it. She can get 50 to 100 emails per day. Do you think she has time to read all of them? Of course not. You need to catch her attention, and personalizing your message is one of the easiest way to do that! Also, make sure you write a killer subject line. More on that here: Internet dating tips: How to get your emails opened
Neediness = kiss of death to your online dating success
Finally, don't babble. Most guys just plainly write too much.
Keep your messages SHORT and fun. I can't stress this enough. You have to appear like non-creepy, non-needy guy. Again, put yourself into her shoes. What do you think when you get an email that's almost like a complete novel? How weird is that? You barely know her and yet you are willing to invest massive amount of time on her. Do I need to say that spells needy and creepy - with capital letters.
She doesn't deserve that yet.
There you have it. 99% of the guys in online dating sites commit one of those three mistakes - many commit them all. Lucky for you. With little effort and thinking you can easily set yourself apart from all the creepy losers (or at least that's what attractive women think of them).
To your online dating success!
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